“How to return the taste for life after a rupture with a sociopath?”
Two months ago she broke up with a man whom she loved for two years. It was a destructive time that I spent of my own free will with a sociopath, an alcoholic and a Gazlaiter. This is now I am so deftly juggling with terms, and before I just painfully hoped that his passionate love that he gave me the first two months would return. I seemed to have grown up inwardly: I’m no longer afraid of death, because she will finally save me from mental torment. I try to rejoice at least something, but inside only pain. Whether it will pass? After all, I loved before, and everything went. But this time I loved a man as a small capricious touching child, and it seems to me to forget this love, because no one will take care of him without me.
Two months after two years of relations is not such a long time, so the part of parting is still fresh. But this condition should not last long.
Living in parting, we pass through different emotional stages: shock, denial, bargaining, aggression, grief, acceptance, release. This is sometimes a rather painful process and very emotional: we can throw us from hatred of love, from guilt to anger. Give yourself time. And rely on the fact that parting was the best choice for you in this situation.
Such reminders are important for the psyche: “Look, I’m taking the right steps”. Usually for this she rewards us with new strength and good mood. If you continue to feel that they “stabbed” in the same feelings and nothing changes, I recommend that you seek help from a specialist.
Your thought “no one will take care of him without me”, perhaps, has become the hook that has kept you in difficult relations for several years and in a sense continues to keep it now. Try to remind yourself more often that your former partner is an adult who once lived before you, which means that he will cope further. Notice in it power – the strength of an adult.
It seems that it was important for you to take care of him, and for some time it gave you the same “taste for
life”. Was anyone in your distant past, whom you really wanted to save, but it never happened? Are you trying to compensate for that situation, creating new, similar? Can you live without saving anyone? You could be in a relationship without “emotional swing”, in those where “quiet and surface”? Did you have such an experience?